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The Mothers of the Wedding

“I am the Mother of the Bride (Groom), but I don't want to look like one.”  
 
Mothers of the wedding have their own unique set of challenges.  Some have it easy with little stress and smooth sailing.  For the vast majority, however, this is not the case.  

The wedding stories we hear from mothers go from the mildly humorous to completely absurd, but one thing is constant, in weddings and life in general:  Mothers take care of everyone else first.  It's just the way it is.
 
By the time they get around to finding their attire, it's late in the game they are full of anxiety.  Nothing will fit, the choices will be limited, they are still trying to lose weight, and the ever-present declaration, “I don't want to look frumpy.”
 
Designers do not try to produce frumpy dresses for their retailers to display.
 
The statement simply means she wants to feel good about herself.  She wants to feel attractive, youthful, and vibrant.  This wedding is her Oscar night and she is walking the red carpet.
 
Attire for mothers range from fashion-forward chic couture to tailored clean lines, fully beaded ornate creations to plain simple elegance, in all sizes. A statement will be made by this one garment.
 
The wedding has Mom's head spinning - balancing personalities, guest lists, shower details, bride and groom nerves, finances, the list goes on and on - and searching for her attire can either calm her nerves or nudge her closer to the edge.  
 
Some tips for Mothers of the Wedding:
  • Start shopping/trying on dresses about 9-12 months prior to the event.
  • Shopping/trying on dresses means actually going to a bridal store and trying on. (Online searches looking at models does not count.)
  • Dresses can take 4-5 months to arrive from date of order.
  • Buy for the size you are, not the size you “hope” to be.
  • Have an open mind.  There is a reason your stylist is pulling that dress for you.
  • Never wear white, ivory, or the color of the bridesmaids dresses.
  • Let Mother of the Bride choose her dress first (unless agreed upon otherwise).  Don't wear her color or try to out-do her.  Compliment the bridal party.
  • Take a picture of yourself in the dresses you like and show the bride and groom.  Having their approval makes a world of difference.
 
When a mom finds her dress, it is very similar to a bride finding hers.  She knows as soon as it's on and her smile is priceless.  The relief is obvious.  She is not going to be a Frumpy Mom after all!
 
 
Wendy Ianieri
Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo